what do I have to do to get some help......?

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what do I have to do to get some help......?

by normalguy @ 29/09/2009 – 04:26:00 am

My wife died in June and my life has fallen apart. I have tried to pick up the pieces but it all soon crumbles.

I took a massive overdose of sleeping pills in July, unfortunately all I did was sleep.

I desperately want to leave this earth and go to be with my wife, but my survival instincts say get help.

So I have been to my GP twice and all he says is get over it.

I have phoned the local Community Mental Health Team three times but no one is ever available to talk, and they never phone back like they say they will.

I am not going to be an attention getter with 'false' suicide attempts, its not my style - so what am I supposed to do?

Perhaps I should just get on with it and stop worrying about whats right or wrong.
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- la_spice
- 29/09/2009 @ 05:30:04 am
Hello Terry

I'm really sorry to hear about your wife. I know how much you had to do for her whilst she was alive so I guess you're at a loss.

That said you must now live your life for you and your children and grandchildren. Imagine their loss if anything happened to you as well.

Do you have any hobbies? If not buy yourself a cheap digital camera and get out and about and look at life through the camera lens. I did that a couple of years ago and it gave me a new perspective and awareness.

Take care and be kind to yourself - it will get better.

Marian ~x~
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- Anne (Visitor)
- 29/09/2009 @ 06:40:47 am
Terry,
No one knows what it's like to lose someone you loved more than anything until it happens to you. We live in a world where people do as if death didn't exist. The only advise I'd give to you is to ask for your doctor's help again, with antidepressants for instance, and stay as often as possible close to your family, since staying alone might be risky for you. You see life in a different way now, and the problem is that you might see it in a different way forever. Life is a big joke but you must carry on living, at least for the rest of your family. You have no choice.
My best thoughts for you

Anne
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- malakeas ^Pro
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- 29/09/2009 @ 09:45:27 am
I am so sorry about your wife my friend. Your GP is an insensitive ass. There is no timetable for grief and recovery of a devastating loss.

There must be crisis teams or support groups in your area. Find one. Or head to the hospital and tell them you are suicidal. They will get you help.

(((hugs)))
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- faffajane ^Pro
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- 29/09/2009 @ 03:09:02 pm
You GP is there to help and advise not fob you off! There is help out there hun can't remember where you are now but pm me and I will find out from our bereavement counsellor in school where your local one is.

Hugs xx
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  - 29/09/2009 @ 03:19:43 pm
  This one is a charity and is free not sure if they have one in your area but you can phone them and speak to someone
  
  http://www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk/
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